Tuesday, September 29, 2026

what you tolerate becomes the standard

September 29, 2026 | Read online

what you tolerate becomes the standard

you teach people how to treat you

There’s a difficult truth about relationships that most people eventually have to confront:

What you repeatedly tolerate becomes a very part of the relationship.

Not because you consciously chose it.

Not because you agreed with it…

But because every time a boundary gets crossed without consequence, every time you stay quiet to keep the peace, every time you abandon your own needs to avoid conflict…

You are teaching the relationship what is acceptable.

This doesn’t mean becoming rigid.

It doesn’t mean keeping score.

And it certainly doesn’t mean expecting perfection from the people you love.

It means recognizing that healthy relationships require two people who are willing to remain honest about what they need, what they value, and who they are.

The danger is that many high-functioning people become very good at adapting.

You accommodate.

You absorb.

You rationalize.

You tell yourself something isn’t worth the argument.

And eventually, you wake up inside a dynamic you never consciously chose.

This is where personal standards become so important.

Because standards aren’t just about what you expect from other people.

They’re about what you’re willing to participate in.

How you allow yourself to be spoken to.

How much of yourself you suppress to make things easier.

Whether you continue showing up as the person you respect when the relationship gets difficult.

The strongest relationships aren’t built by people who have no boundaries.

They’re built by people who can love deeply without abandoning themselves in the process.

And sometimes the most important question isn’t:

“Are they treating me well?”

It’s:

“Am I showing up in this relationship in a way that I respect?”

Remember:

Givers must let limits, because takers never do.

Your coach,

- James Michael Sama

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Monday, September 28, 2026

Geoffrey Chaucer and the Last Knight in England

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Geoffrey Chaucer and the Last Knight in England

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Gerald Therrien sheds light on the real Geoffrey Chaucer as an epistemological warrior who used the power of the pen to shape entire kingdoms, subvert the growth of the Feudal Norman Barons and corrupting romanticism while also forming the english language.

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Saturday, September 26, 2026

Insights into the Human Heart, Tragedy and Wisdom with Shakespeare’s Troilus and Cressida

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Insights into the Human Heart, Tragedy and Wisdom with Shakespeare’s Troilus and Cressida

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Sep 26

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On Sunday March 1, 2026, The Rising Tide Foundation hosted the poet, philosopher, lawyer and essayist Carey Jobe in an examination of Shakespeare’s immortal tragedy ‘Troilus and Cresida’.

Written in the early 1600s, at roughly the same time as Hamlet and King Lear, Troilus and Cressida is one of Shakespeare’s most challenging plays. It is not tragedy—neither of the title characters dies. Nor is it comedy—there is no happy ending. Even the title derives not from the main story but from the subplot: the love of Troilus and Cressida, their romance brokered by Cressida’s gossipy uncle Pandarus.

Their story takes place against the backdrop of the Trojan War, the epic struggle of Greeks and Trojans for Helen, wife of Menelaus, after her abduction by Paris, brother of Troilus. Shakespeare chose the greatest legend of Western literature to write what amounts to a recantation of themes of heroism and love he brought to the stage only a few years before. Anyone attending a performance of Henry V sees a glorious hero fighting for a righteous cause. Romeo and Juliet fills the viewer with the splendor of love.

These are plays that affirm ideals. But theatergoers leave a performance of Troilus and Cressida unsure what they have seen, how they are supposed to react—their expectations from the conventions of heroism and love are thwarted in almost every scene. What universal lessons and insights into universal history did Shakespeare embed in this immortal story? Find out by watching this lecture.

Speaker bio: Carey Jobe is a retired attorney and judge. Prior to beginning his legal career, he was a student of Classical Literature and Latin Language. His Latin translations have appeared in The Classical Outlook, the journal of The American Classical Society. He is also a widely published poet whose work regularly appears in numerous literary journals. He lives and writes near Tallahassee, Florida.